Words reveal the heart

March 20, 2022 • Filed under:

Each weekday my son leaves for school and then I scurry to get myself out the door for work. Picture book bags and a purse slung over my shoulders while balancing a cup of coffee and keys in my hands. On one morning, recently,

My son called.

Mom, I forgot my backpack. Can you bring it to school?

Me: Can you come home and get it?

Him: School starts in five minutes.

I responded poorly.

I asked a series of questions. I asked irritably, “Why wasn’t it in your car?” I complained, “I am on my way out the door.” I gave in reluctantly, “Okay. [pause] I will bring it right now.”

On my one mile trip to school, a red light provided the pause I needed to reflect on my verbal responses to my son compared to the surrendered heart I aim to offer God each morning. I saw the problem and said to God,

Well God, I tell you my heart is surrendered to you, but mouth this morning has revealed the truth. The day has not been surrendered to you. Otherwise, I would not have responded that way I did.

Father, forgive me.

With my HEART, I now tell You the day is yours. You may mess my schedule up. You may do whatever. Really. I won’t get upset next time when faced with the schedule You decide for me.

I pulled up to my son waiting for me in the school parking lot. As I passed the backpack through the window, I asked his forgiveness, “I am sorry for my irritable response. Do you forgive me?” He said, “Yes,” like he always does. I love him so!

Pay Attention

On the way home I did some thinking. Indicator lights on our dashboard let us know there is an issue with our car — engine, oil, door open, low gas, etc. Negative emotions let us know there is an issue with our heart — control, bitterness, anger, jealousy, grief, loneliness, etc.

Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Proverbs 4:23

Deal with issues quickly

If we pay attention, things don’t have to build up. In my short trip to and from school, I was able to confess my sin to God, ask for forgiveness from my son, and pull back into the driveway in right relationship with the Lord again.

Does it take work?

Yes, it does, but living like this is far less work than letting things build up until we blow up, destroying relationships. We get to decide between the two.

Picture Explanation: Signs of spring are starting to appear. Frost and bowls of hot soup are transitioning to blooms and fresh fruit. May our hearts be melting into spring as well.   

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  • Margee Curran says:

    As usual, timely words my friend! Need to be watching for dashboard indicators of negative emotions, signaling all us not well with my soul!

    • Laurie says:

      The words are timely for me too! My mouth tells on me! We are all in the same fight, but it’s the good fight.

  • Pam says:

    Oh, such a good reminder…..Thank you, Laurie. So interesting we can wound with our words, and also repair with our words. Thank you, Lord.

    • Laurie says:

      Yes, our tongue can heal and hurt. I don’t like that fact, but it is true. Thank you for using your words to bring so much healing to the world.

  • LeAnn says:

    Great post, Laurie! Such a good reason to be contemplative about our emotions and our responses. Thank you for sharing this life lesson with us!

  • Tish says:

    Laurie, I was very blessed by your post! Such a good example of paying attention to the warning lights of my emotions as soon as I see them flashing! Thank you!

    • Laurie says:

      You are welcome. I woke up to some warning lights this morning. Praying for God to lead to me to their source.

    • Laurie says:

      You are welcome. I woke up to some warning lights this morning. Praying for God to lead to me to their source.

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